Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Adventures in Aurangabad, Ellora & Ajanta Caves

Wow. Getting out of the city brought me into the real India as many say. Aurangabad is quite different from Bombay. My morning begins with a beautiful sunrise while I wait for my host Josh to meet me. Josh pulls up on his scooter with a big Kenyan smile on his face. Josh is from Kenya but has been living in India to get a higher education. Josh & his flat mates open up their home just a bit outside of the city to me for the 2 days I’m there. I freshen up, eat a bit and then we head by scootie the 30km to Ellora Caves.
The Mini Taj
View of the Mini Taj Mahal from Josh's Rooftop
Momma pig and her piglets running through the streets.
Indian style candy necklace!

Views along the way to Ellora Caves

I’ll let lonely planet give you the DL on the Ellora Caves. “Ellora has 34 caves in all: 12 Buddhist (AD 600-800), 17 Hindu (AD 600-900) and five Jain (AD 800-1000). The grandest, however, is the awesome Kailasa Temple (Cave 16), the world’s largest monolithic sculpture, hewn top to bottom against a rocky slope by 7000 laborers over a 150 year period. Dedicated to Lord Shiva, it is clearly among the best that ancient Indian architecture has to offer.”
Kailasa Temple (cave 16)











Cave 32, The Indra Sabha (assembly hall of Indra), is the finest of the Jain temples.

These caves were fascinating. It’s amazing what they created out of the side of the mountain. 

I think the highlight of the day was our adventures on the way back to Aurangabad. We stopped in a shady spot for some refreshing sugar cane juice. It is so tasty, quite a shame that you can’t get it back home. I sat a bit too close to the road and drew in car loads of India families. They were shy at first stopping just to get juice and then would slowly inch their way over to ask for photo with me. Many times though they will just take photos from a distance when you’re not looking and won’t ask permission…it can get pretty distracting and irritating once you notice. Makes you feel a bit like a celebrity. Damn paparazzi haha! So in turn many times I’ll ask for a photo back, here are a few of those.









Our sugar cane juice stand :)
I was telling Josh, I always wanted to go to an India wedding. Boom, he made it happen. Haha well more of we crashed the wedding. I’m officially a wedding crasher. I went to take photos of the wedding and they turned it around on me giving us scarfs and asking me to take pictures with the groom haha. I’ll let the photos do the talking:





Day 2 took me on a 2 hour bus ride to Ajanta Caves with 3 new friends – Joelle, Eliane and Felipe. Something interesting is that foreigners pay 25x more to enter most sites in India, it’s still only $5 but just very random. I hope part of the reasoning for this is to encourage Indians to visit all that their country has to offer.

Here's the DL Lonely Planet has to offer about Ajanta Caves - “Fiercely guarding its horde of priceless artistic treasures from another era, the Buddhist caves of Ajanta, 105km northeast of Aurangabad, could well be called the Louvre of ancient India. Much older than Ellora, these secluded caes date from around the 2nd century BC to the 6th centure AD and were among the earliest monastic instiutions to be constructed in the country. The 30 caves of Ajanta line the steep face of a horseshoe-shaed rock forge cordering the Waghore River flowing below.”
At our time of visit it was HOTTT and there sadly was no river flowing below. The caves were very incredible. Hard to capture in photos though. See for yourself :-)











You can even hire porters...makes sense for the elderly but for some people, c'mon!




Thank you Josh for everything!!! He even gave us rides to the train station :-)

Saturday, April 6, 2013

Bombay Baby.



Bombay in the AM
A friend of mine asked about culture shock – I cannot deny that I always have a case of it when I first arrive to a new country after being home in the US for a while. I feel nervous, excited, vulnerable and a bit fearful. India’s big cities are quite intense as well. When I stepped off the plane from NYC to Bombay, I no longer had a working iPhone (which I forget how much I rely on), can speak to just anyone as not everybody knows English, have friends or family close by to reach out to. I am alone, trusting that my couch surfing host would show up to pick me up late on a Monday night.

I asked a few strangers if I can borrow their phone to contact my host to let him know I’ve arrived safely. They direct me to a telephone stand a blind gentleman operates. I’m able to get in touch with my host Dr. Sidharth and his driver arrives 30 minutes later. His driver, Baabloo, speaks some English and we chat a bit before picking up Dr. Sidharth to take me to his clinic. The whole time though I’m thinking of The White Tiger. Is Baabloo treated well? Does he wish he could be with his family this late at night? Those who read it will know what I mean.

My host is very welcoming and made me feel at ease. He even introduced me to his friend, Dr. Vishkar, who is taking his mother and sister-in-law out that night to experience Bombay night life. I join along to Juhu beach. We dip are feet in the Arabian sea and oh does the sea breeze feel amazing on that sticky night. They treat me to my first Indian street food and Kalfi for dessert. I’m stuffed! I swear they’re trying to fatten me up! A good first night in Bombay.

All in all during my stay in 3 different parts of Bombay with 3 different CS hosts:
  • ·        Juhu – Dr. Sidharth’s extra room in his clinic
  • ·        Bandra West – Mudit’s flat
  • ·        Chembur West – Navneet & Nikhil’s flat

Unfortunately my 2nd host, Mudit, is under the weather the whole time I stay with him, but we still were able to have some great conversations. I had other couch surfer’s offer to show me around, so I take Amrit up on that for my 2nd day. He’s very generous and shows me some true gems in Bombay. 


Laundry central near Mahalaxmi station. If you send for laundry to be done, more than likely it will come here.
Cricket is played everywhere!

HOLI
India is known for its many festivals. Lonely planet has 4 pages dedicated to month by month breakdown of the top festivals. I had the chance to be in India during Holi. Holi is one of North India’s most ecstatic festivals. Hindus celebrate the beginning of spring according to the lunar calendar, by throwing colored water and gulal (powder) at anyone within range. On the night before Holi, bonfires symbolize the demise of the evil demoness Holika.

For any whom I’d chatted with before my trip heard about my excitement about celebrating Holi. I think I created a bit too much hype and expectations for the experience. Don’t get me wrong it was fun just different than what I’d expected. I’d assumed it was some massive outdoor celebration where much of the city participates; similar to St. Patrick’s day in San Francisco. I quickly came to find out that playing Holi is a bigger party up North (if only I read my lonely planet) and that it’s celebrated with close friends/families. So you really want to be able to attend a private party with a friend and all their friends/family members. At this point in my trip I’d just met a few people, Amrit and I opted to check out a party in Juhu beach. We played Holi, danced to Bollywood music and as soon I was starting to feel all crusty from the colors the rain dance started! I think that was my favorite part, everybody was jumping up and down getting drenched in the water. I walked away with some really fun memories and a couple new pink highlights in my hair haha. 
Amrit and I on our way to Juhu Hotel. Like my go go gadget arm?
Holi celebration at Juhu Hotel.


Before heading to see the Ellora and Ajanta caves, I spent the day with Navneet. He was patient enough to run me around on his motorbike to do errands. Biggest success of all was getting a phone here. So if you’d like my Indian number hit me up! If I know you that is J We also checked out the Great wall of Mumbai. The many rickshaw and taxi drivers Navi asked when trying to find it had heard of it, even though lonely planet had a paragraph on it. I don’t think street art is appreciated as it’s getting a bit rundown but I still enjoyed the art and the beauty of it all. Next time I’d love to walk the whole stretch.




Bandra Bandstand where many Bollywood stars live

Bandra Market - You can get shoes & clothes for around $2

My last day in Bombay was by far my favorite. Good company is what has always made my travels. At this point, I’d returned from a one night trip to Aurangabad (detailed in a later post) and brought along two new Swiss Friends, Eliane & Joelle. All three of us girls were welcomed to Nikhil & Navneet’s flat in West Chembur. These boys have such good energy together; you can tell they’ve been friends for nearly a decade. That day I laughed more than I have in weeks. The 5 of us meandered all around Bombay and ended the day with a night motorbike ride to Bandra bandstand. It’s a nice area on the sea where many Bollywood stars live. I still need to see a Bollywood movie in India, I guess I have 4 more weeks to check that one off.

A bit delirious after our overnight train ride.
Sweet shot from my GoPro
The silliness begins!
This is what happens when I showed them a scarf that I didn't know what to do with....Myself, Nikhil, Joelle and Navneet.
Local train time.
Mumbai CST
I'm convinced now....for sure.
Sugar cane juice mm mm
Eliane, Navneet, Nikhil, Joelle and Me at the Gateway of India.

These grilled cheese were bomb!! If you're in bombay find this stall!
Random observations about Bombay Life
I was surprised that a city of 19 million has yet to open an underground subway system. The above ground local train still definitely works and is very cheap (10 rupees or 20 cents a ride), but the underground that is expected next year will hopefully be a bit of a relief. I did have the luck to experience the local train at peak hour – ladies compartment was better than this though. Nuts, right?

Locals make things as easy as possible, jay walking is everywhere even when sky walkways have been built; it’s so much easier to just cross lanes of traffic and hold out your hand for cars, motorbikes & rickshaws to stop for you. Nobody stops for Ambulances. Somebody could be having a heart attack and die because of a traffic jam. Culturally it has not been taught to pull over when you see or hear an ambulance. There is definitely a lot of madness going on in those streets, but it’s beautiful. My favorite memories of Bombay are riding around on the back of Navneet & Nikhil’s motorbikes. It allows such a different perspective of all the life around me from the back of the bike.


I loved these old school cabs.
Something that absolutely blew my mind was that every couch surfer I met had a maid and cook that came twice a day. Navneet had first mentioned it when we were chatting before I arrived, I was floored, thinking wow he has a cook?!?! That is such a rarity in the US. Nobody has a cook and I knew a few who have cleaners come twice a month - what a luxury to have somebody cook and clean for you! I had to know more, how could they all afford this….Well first, a lot of it has to do with the massive over population and women that are from surrounding countries who can’t get a work permit. Also, all in all to have somebody do your laundry, cook and clean for you twice a day is only $100 USD a month. Living the high life in Bombay :-)

Thank you so much to all my new friends who made my Bombay experience incredible. We’ll be seeing each other again. Reunion on the golden gate bridge?




Saturday, March 30, 2013

Surprises, expectations & lessons learned at 3am

My present as I arrived in Aurangabad
Warning this is a text heavy post, but you never know what gems of knowledge you might find in my writings. By the way I am writing this all at 3am. The malaria pills or something are screwing with me. I've woken up after 4 hours of sleep every night so far. I feel you insomniacs & writers. I literally knew it would not be possible to return to sleep without ridding my mind of these thoughts for my blog. So here they are....

India is full of surprises. My single bed overnight a/c bus with toilet reservation had a couple up its sleeve. The moment I walked on board to find my bed there is one. My single bed is now a shared bed with a very sweet mother & daughter. I attempt to attest explaining I booked a single bed where a man is now snoring, but give in quickly & end up truly enjoying the company of my bed mates. Bah a/c, funny. A simple fan would have provided more relief from the heat. But hey it's India it's kinda expected.With toilet turns out to be outside the bus. I don't think I've gone through the night without needing a toilet so I out I go to squat on the side of a highway. I relieve myself, hold up. I need to be fully honest here, i partially relieve myself. I definitely had to go #2 but there was no way I was ready to join the I've pooped on the sidewalk club. So thank you strong young bowels. I jump back on the bus and return to snuggle with my 3 year old sweet bed mate.

Now some of you might be a bit unnerved because we are all so used to our western amenities. I believe its better to embrace whats thrown your way. I came here to experience Indian life and learn more about its culture. The opportunities have been everywhere and I'm stepping into them with a smiling face.

Overall my biggest surprise of all is the warmth & completely unexpected generosity of the people. Much of this is to thank because of couch surfers! I've had people open up there homes, share meals with me, pick me up from the airport, run me around to do errands, come retrieve me from my home or greet me at the bus station when it's 30 min out of their way, spend the whole day showing me their city, graciously paying for rickshaws, train tickets, delicious food. All of this without a flinch of an eye, without any expectations of receiving anything in return but the hopes to make me happy.

What a humble and giving culture. To put this into perspective, I'd hoped a friend would offer me a ride to the airport, but that was an example of being single and having expectations bites you in the ass. When no offers came in, I went through a list of friends with cars or who could drive my manual car to find a 20 min ride to the airport in SF. Most were all occupied on that Saturday night and declined, yet all accepted the evening before for a night of drinking. Want to know how many offers to greet me and pick me up in Mumbai I had? At least 10, from complete strangers that are new friends. When friends I've known for years are too busy to send me off to the airport. Don't get me wrong I love my friends dearly and I know they love me too. I'm no
one to complain as I know my friends have been on the same end of it from me. I just thought it was a clear teaching around how sadly my culture has created "busy" selfish people where a small kind gesture to a loved one is a big thing loaded with expectations of receiving something in return. And wow was it smacked in my face the moment I stepped off the plane in India. The lessons traveling will teach you.

All my friends out there, please don't be offended. And  of course I am grateful Hillery for giving me a ride & Sarah for letting us borrow your car. Thank you thank you my fish tacos. With my new lesson, now you all have me to count on for rides to the airport :) & of course so much more!

My intentions here were not to bitch but to share a travelers perspective. I honestly at the moment would have just antied up and paid for a $50 cab without being irritated or upset. It really all just dawned on me now.

Being there my last moments in the US when I'm about to embark on a scary & exciting solo journey is more impactful on our friendship. Make sense? For example I'll  never forget my good friend Corine sending out meeting invites to send me off and pick me up for my 5
month trip last year. Or Sarah Holm you making a point to drive 2 hours to spend qt time together, help me pack & run last minute errands. Sarah Saul you're going to be my savior when you bring me a batch of new clothes to Croatia, gracias in advance. Beth, Coco, Chris & Ham for reaching out to grab dinner & catch up, although we need to do it more often rather than when I'm peacing out. And Julia for your sappy sweet secret message declaring your love for me on my GoPro. This Italian woman literally loves food & declared she loved me more
than many of her very favorites including pizza & meatballs. Ok I could go on and on, but I'll spare you.

I know I can be blunt at times so understand this writing was all from the heart. If you took the time to read this, I love you. I'm grateful for your presence in my life and since I know I don't say it enough, one more time - YOU ARE LOVED!

Sending lots of x's and o's from India!
Your bri bri

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Hasta Luego SF, Hello India.

Let's just say the days leading up to my departure were quite hectic - getting my room ready for Kelly (she's subleasing), spending time with friends, wrapping up work, Oh & packing. Here's where I started and clearly had to make some decisions. I swear packing can be the hardest task of all because it's so easy to want to bring everything. Of course I want to leave room for treasures I find along the way.


Luckily I had good friends to help me put things into perspective and leave a few items behind. It was so nice to spend QT with close friends leading up to my trip. I even recorded some short videos on my GoPro...I've been watching all my 'Words of Wisdom' videos. I couldn't quite figure out how to create a video to share with all, either way they've been making me smile.Thank you everyone who came to see me, I felt very loved. 
I love you guys. Sarah & Amy I know you're going to kill me but I couldn't resist haha.
Right before I was heading to the airport, I had Kelly snap a quick photo of my 2nd round with big green! How fun is this side by side.
Left - November 2011, Right - March 2013
After my first leg of this 20 hours of flying I signed up for, I headed into NYC to explore with Adrienne. Even though it was just for the day it was so nice to see Adrienne and break up the flights a bit. Oh definitely forgot to mention this one, guess who has poison oak? Lovely right. I had no idea a backpacking trip 2 weeks ago would have reprecussions for this trip. All in all it's still around and I'm trying to use the hydrocortisone I picked up in New York to stop me from in itching (written as I'm itching my leg). 

Adi and I roaming around the city.
After spending the day in NYC, I hopped on another 'red eye' to Bombay. This one although was 16 hours. I watched a couple moves, passed out and woke up just an hour before landing. Bombay has been a great place to start my India trip. All of the couch surfers I've been meeting up with or staying with been incredibly generous. I'll write more about what I've been up to in Bombay in my next post. Until then, I'll share with you a photo from playing Holi yesterday. Happy Holi!

Thursday, March 7, 2013

On The Road Again....

"Travel is more than the seeing of sights; it is a change that goes on, deep and permanent, in the ideas of living." -Miriam Beard


I’m very excited, yet a bit nervous to be heading out on another solo trip. This time I’ll be on the road for about 9 weeks. It was all just an idea I had a few months ago and now my departure is in 16 days!!

The initial driving force behind this trip is Scottie & Em’s wedding in Drubrovnik, Croatia in May. Of course the scheming began....If I’m in Croatia then I should visit Tomo in Slovenia and OH Ami is still in India right? This all led to asking my work if I could take a leave for a couple months. I am blessed to work for a company who truly has a work/life balance. My leave was approved without any resistance. YAY & Thank You to Primitive Logic.

Once my flight was booked through vayama.com it all started to feel real. I highly recommend checking out vayama - they were about $200 less than anywhere else I looked. Only downfall is you don’t get to select your seats when you book your flight. You need to call all the airlines or go to their website to select your seat, but hey that effort was worth saving $200!

Here’s what my March 23rd to June 1st looks like:

NYC for 12 hrs - March 24th
Just enough time to catch up with Adrienne, one of my good friends & old SF roomie! Hoping to pick a good lunch spot and catch up with a few others - Erica, Jessica let me know if you’re around!!

INDIA - March 25th - May 3rd



Where to start. I’m really excited to see India through my own eyes. I’ve heard so many different things from so many people. Thank you to all who’ve given me amazing advice and spent time answering my questions. My brick of a guide book has already many fun notes & recs thanks to Laura! This video above that Sarah S. discovered truly lit me up. What an invigorating culture!

Where exactly I’m going is still up in the air. I know I’ll begin my trip in Bombay & fly out of Dehli, but beyond that here are all my ideas & recommendations I’ve been told: Ajanta/Ellora, Hampi, Goa, Kerala, Madurai, Varanasi, Hardiwar, Rishikesh, Manali, Amristar, Ladakh,  Agra (Taj Mahal), Rajasthan - Jaipur, Udaipur, Jaisalmer , Dehli.  DANG, I just rambled that all off by memory, all my research and chats with fellow travellers is helping.

Clearly that is not all possible in 6 weeks though. I do know...

  • From my couch surfing interactions, the people are wonderful! From the moment I step in India, I have a warm welcome awaiting me and I’m not even there yet!
  • I will wear Saris and embrace the culture
  • I’m excited to meet Ami, an ex-Deloitter too, and travel for a bit together
  • I will stay in an Ashram along the way and volunteer. Sarah Marino all of the work that you are doing is incredible. Sarah shared this video with me, what a beautiful story. It most definitely started my love affair with India:  


SWITZERLAND - May 3rd - 5th
Krispies you better meet me in Zurich!!!

CROATIA - May 6th - 20th
I’m looking to have at least 2 weeks to explore this beautiful country. EEEE I can’t wait to see the beautiful ocean and witness Scott & Em’s wedding!
Here’s what I have planned: Zagreb → Piltvice National Park → Krka National Park → Split/Hvar → Dubrovnik

BOSNIA &/or MONTENEGRO - May 20th - May 25th
I haven’t done much research yet, so any advice is definitely welcome even though I many not have time for these 2. I’ll be veryclose in Dubrovnik so at least a day trip will have to happen.

SLOVENIA - May 25th - May 31st
I’ll get to spend some time catching up with Tomo who is from here. Tomo and I met on a very very long bus ride from Guatemala to Nicaragua. Looking forward to seeing his country & his life there!

SWITZERLAND - May 31st - June 1st
I’ve heard you’re beautiful, but too pricey for me right now. I’ll probably be spending minimal time in Zurich. I just need to be there in time to catch my flight back to SFO!

I have a subleaser, Kelly, staying in my room - glad that we can help her start her new life in SF. Thank you Amy & Julia for being supportive! My checklist of pre-travel to do’s is getting shorter by the day - mend my tennis’s, get travel meds, find a sturdy day back yadda yadda. Ok maybe the list quite isn't getting shorter, but I’ll get there.

Everything is truly starting to align and fall in place once again. If you’re intentional in your desires you can make it happen. Of course with any desire there is still a lot of energy and work that must be sacrificed for your desire to manifest, but it’s all worth it!

In Love & Light,


Bri
From my trip to Hawaii a couple weeks ago with my mum & gma.